We live in a hood where people are constantly running through our house, big people, little people all sorts of people. We like people. My kids will send me over the edge with the constant play date requests and sometimes the play dates just show up, request or no request. There is always an event to attend. We have to consciously declare that it is a family day to alert the kids that it will be just us for the afternoon or the evening. It is usually met with a drawn out, but whyyyyy??!!
Though I was a little bit nervous about our 25 day date with just our family, I knew that it would be way more than an adventure, it was going to do what dates do – reconnect us. My girls especially need this right now. Their little girl love for each other has transitioned into sibling rivalry. I do what I can to make it better, but I know that it is their path and I can only guide them so much. We have a no tolerance policy with anything that spills over towards mean, but I cannot really dictate that Ella say yes to her sister’s request to play their life long game of Emma (their pretend game of house they have played since Juliet could walk). After all, she is 10 and a half and her play is rapidly changing. My heart breaks for Jules though. I know I survived my siblings (and they survived me) and now I could not live without them, but it doesn’t make it any easier to see my girls at odds when they were once each others’ everything.
We are now on day 5 of our 25 days. Like most days in life they are going too fast. We are surviving and thriving – just us as a family. We are enjoying each other and discovering new things about each other and the world and hopefully creating a bigger bond between our kids and ourselves.
We spent the first five days on a vacation at the Fairmont Orchid on The Big Island. It was a much needed break for Darren who had been working nonstop and, in turn, for me who had been solo parenting. The resort was a perfect introduction to Hawaii. We realize that it is a fabricated experience, but we soaked up every bit of it. We could walk up to a little shack and request a paddle board, a kayak, snorkeling gear, beach towels, tropical drinks and so much more. It was right there at our finger tips. Our kids got comfortable with diving to the bottom of the cove to say hi to the resident turtles and we had a blast playing with all the beach toys. There was not a whole lot of relaxing to be had as we jumped from one activity to the next, but we did not have to think about where we needed to go or what we needed to do upon landing after a long few weeks and a long day of travel. I now write from the couch of a little bungalow located on an island farm. Our laundry is in piles in front of me and I have to think about what is for dinner. Darren just took the kids to get fitted for snorkeling gear. We are on our own in Hawaii for the next 20 days. Let the adventure begin.